Dealing with difficult people is challenging and exhausting!

As an NLP coach, I meet many people who ‘put up’ with unpleasant work or living situations, just because it’s easier and marginally less painful for them to ‘back down’ than actually deal with confrontation of any kind. Standing up to bullies is very stressful – and stressful situations can cause anxiety, sleeplessness, days off work and worse. If you place people into one of these 4 behaviour categories, which are you:

Assertive (you’re ok and can have your opinions AND I’m ok and can have mine, even if they don’t agree with yours! Hey – we’re both ok!)

Aggressive (I’m ok, my opinions are right, you’re in the wrong if you don’t agree, you idiot!)

Submissive (I’m not ok…you choose for me, I’ll go along with whatever you think is best…if that’s ok with you?)

Depressive (No one is ok, it’s all sh*t, what’s the ruddy point?)

Instead of accepting that we can all have our own opinions (ie be in the Assertive category), the Aggressive bullies can force others into the Submissive category…just to keep the peace.  What tiresome people they are.  Who do you know who HAS to be right, who can never be in the wrong?  If it’s your boss or someone you have to work with – that’s a challenge, right?!

* Learn how not to take things PERSONALLY!
* What to do about anxiety and stress
* Eliminate dread, remain confident
* Keeping your cool when others are losing theirs
* Creating Win Win situations
* Learn life long tools for dealing with conflict

Of course, you’re also welcome to contact me for tips and ideas about your own particular situation, if you’re having to deal with such challenges.  Oh my!